mental-health

Forgiveness & Patience ~ part 2

 

October 20, 2014

Sophia, I have been working very hard on forgiveness, for without it I feel I cannot evolve. Whenever I think that I have managed true forgiveness, something comes up to show me that I may have not completely forgiven. What is the work that needs to be done once the intention to forgive is in place?

Dearest One, forgiveness is a process and as such cannot be done in one ‘sitting’. Knowing that there are several layers on the path to forgiveness and patience with your process, is key.

Forgiveness is intertwined with time, others, and yourself. When one feels a need to forgive a deep injury, the past must be brought up which is the timeline associated with the situation. This incites the chain reaction of being pulled out of the now (where you have done some work on this issue), and into the hurtful situation as it happened. If you have done any work around forgiveness of the situation, recreating it should feel different, and another facet of the situation should be apparent. This would be the next layer to work with in your process.

It is easy to get ‘stuck’ in forgiving someone for a violation you feel is unforgivable to you. This then requires that you go deeper into where the belief of the violation comes from. Is there a programming issue at work? Another words, were you programmed to believe something that felt violated? If so, is this your belief or someone else’s that you acquired and were taught to make your own? If this feels right, it would be wise to consider the belief system you have around the issue. Sometimes it is easy to tell when the belief may come from another source by looking at how resistant you are to the defense of your beliefs. When one does not want to consider change, growth and evolution is stopped.

Sophia, I can see how forgiveness can involve more effort than just ‘talking’ yourself into it. I know personally that in the past I have made the decision to forgive through analyzing, which did not work.

You are correct! Forgiveness is not of the mind (ego). It is of the heart. This is why most cannot complete the process. Deep forgiveness delves underneath the ‘chain of pain’ within the heart. Each event, person, or situation is interlinked with one variable; and that is you. In some situations forgiveness of yourself for not being ‘loveable’ or ‘good enough’ is enough to heal. This could very well be the only act of forgiveness that may truly matter!

I understand that forgiving ourselves is very important, for without that we have not stopped the chain reaction of creating situations that require forgiveness. What about a true violation such as rape or murder?

Yes, this is the highest form of forgiveness and the most difficult. This requires you to ‘see’ with a higher mind/heart connection. This is a deep injury that has many facets to it, and in some cases cannot be undone due to the level of guilt intertwined within the injury. Guilt is the highest form of punishment that the ego generates to keep you ‘in line’. Guilt is the ‘hold card’ for the ego that can undermine anything in your life. In the case of an ‘unforgiveable’ situation, the first step must be the willingness to let go, forgive, and heal the pain that is caused by the situation. Pain is addicting, for it gives some ones a reason to be weak and feel victimized. Healing and forgiving lifts you out of the process of victimization, and allows you to see the bigger picture that involves all that we have discussed. Remembering that you are responsible only for yourself and your actions can help you see the event from a ‘third party’ viewpoint. You must be willing to step outside of the pain of the situation to see the larger picture and the part each one had within it. Only then can you find a speck of understanding within the event. Knowing that you cannot change anything that has happened helps to pull you out of the fog of the pain. Loss is a part of your evolution. Being able to understand this clarifies and refines your being. It lifts you to a higher place of understanding and love, for this is what your higher instinct knows you are working towards. You cannot have higher evolution of your being with lower level unresolved pain and guilt. This is your path to peace, joy, bliss and love for yourself and others.

Thank you, Sophia!
♥

Judgment/Non-judgment

October 12, 2014

Dearest Ones, open your heart to the energy you have been experiencing and know that this is a frequencial alignment for your evolutionary expansion. It is all about clearing yourself of old energy and ego attachments. Everywhere you turn there is a ‘mirror’ for you to see yourself as you truly are. This is a gift from spirit, and a way to perceive yourself from the outside looking in. Do you like what you see? Paradigms are changing, and this is how it has to be done…..individually…from within.

As these energetic shifts are happening, it is part and parcel of a Divine plan to create spiritual evolution which takes you away from ego thinking, feeling, and living. The trap of the ego keeps you in judgment of yourselves and others. It is a good first step, to become consciously aware of your judgments. It is so engrained in us [to judge] that you judge without knowing that is what you are doing!

Some of your judgments come from defending yourselves by judging others back. That is, judging someone that has judged you. Do you see how this can keep you so occupied? What if you allowed the other person to be what and who they are without judging them? Does your judgment of them actually change anything? Does it make you feel better? Let’s look at where judgment comes from……

First, it does not come from you……the authentic and genuine you…..it comes from your ‘program’. This is a program everyone has. It is instilled by those that nurtured you first, which are the ones that gained your trust without earning it. These are the ones you turned to for approval, love, and acceptance. You believed everything they told you, including how to judge others including yourself. How can we not think then, that judging is not ok? Everywhere we turn there is a system set up for judging and if you don’t judge, you are not ‘normal’. Judging is not from the heart, it is from the ego, and it feeds upon itself.

You are hardest on yourselves as you are taught to police yourselves and others along the way. You were not taught to allow others to be who they are and love them anyway. You may be of the belief that you know ‘best’ and can help others by changing them to something better. Can you see how this can occupy most of your existence?

A big part of non-judgment is trust. Trusting that all will be ok without your judgments. Trying to change the outside world is not going to make you feel better. It is not possible anyway. You cannot change anyone or anything because the true change that you are seeking must come from within. That is where you can effectuate the transformation to who you really are. Accepting and allowing life to evolve without your judgments is a challenge and must be done consciously. If you have someone or something in your life that is not what you want, instead of judging them, look at what it is inside of you that doesn’t like what is happening and why. You might find that the very thing that bothers you has nothing to do with the other person and is something within that needs shifting, cleansing or healing.

Allowing yourselves to trust and love is one of the most difficult things you can do. With most of you, trust was broken early in our lives and we became leery of ever trusting again. Judgments seems to keep you feeling ‘safe’ because it keeps a wall between you and the other person. A wall is easy to build because in most cases it immobilizes love. Your judgments then are the bricks that add to the wall, strengthening it along the way. If you didn’t believe your judgments it would not be such a problem. But then, why have them if you don’t or won’t believe them?

When you can drop your judgments of others, and look within to the reason you are judging and work on that, then there is hope for change. Dropping your judgments will give you power within by transforming you into who you really are which is a powerful, spiritual being of light and love. This path, should you choose it, can lead you to living a peaceful and joyful life lifting others up and helping them along the way. This is the way of life that leads to living your bliss. Be well, be love ♥

Introspection

October 5, 2014

Finding that place within yourself that is your ‘touchpad’ for introspection is of major importance to your process. We have talked a lot about ‘processes’ as the work continues. The internal processing of your experience is your soul’s evolution. This is why finding your place of introspection and working from there is so important.

There can be no healing without aligning with your experience through introspection, and then expressing true gratitude for the experience! Only then through appreciation, can one truly meld the experience into light within. This is the alchemy of healing. You do not have to understand the process to heal. There exists a tremendous amount of grace to assist you once you have set the intention to heal things that arise during introspection.

All can be transmuted and transformed into love. Cleansing within is primary to your evolution; for that is the purpose of being here as a spiritual being having a 3d experience! Allowing truth to rise within, and recognize it as such, is stepping into true purpose; for the one purpose that everyone shares is living truth. Acknowledgement of this within is primary. Then and only then can you connect to your authentic self. Anything else is manufactured and programmed by 3d. Some of this programming is so deep one cannot tell the difference between it and truth except that your heart can discern this for you.

As the heart processes things that arise during introspection, it then communicates the truth back to you in the form of emotion. When there is a conflict between processing that is done between ego and heart, the result can be fear. This is a toxic mix of truth and non-truth. When this arises within one must ‘dissect’ the pattern of the process and discover which part of the situation is based on ego. When this is discovered and the truth of the situation is known, one can then proceed to transmuting the issue through the heart with unimpeded truth. Then the alchemy of healing can proceed to completion.

This may take time as the ego is entwined within some beliefs and programming without you being aware of it. It may not even be your ego that is involved, however by taking on the belief you have accepted the ego of the maker as your own. This is the reason to question your thoughts and feelings about everything that arises within that doesn’t resonate with you, or who you want to become. There is no easy way to heal mistruth from your being, and some issues need much work.

It takes a great deal of courage to do this work, and the result is peace within. When there exists internal peace you are living the truth of your being and love is your signature. All can feel it as the frequency of your light emanates and lifts others to a heightened state of love. This gives them the opportunity to feel love as it activates the heart within them and starts introspection, which can be the beginning of their healing process within. All are connected through the language of the heart. Truth is the language of your authentic self. Cleanse your thinking and the process will lead you to your highest expression, which is stepping outside of 3d. Then you will be able to see all that exists outside of truth for what it is. This will open you to higher realms of existence within and bring more joy, freedom, and love into your life. Open to the possibility of this and you will be guided. Be well, be love ♥

Clarity

September 28, 2014

Clarity is a state of being. There are several things that play a part in clarity. All of the healing and purging that has been done over the last two years has created a desire for clarity of being. This is a result of the ‘Grand Alignment’ and activation of a higher frequency of light upon your solar system.

Clarity is the state of being as a Master or ‘Master in training’ which some of you are! That is why we are having this communication today. Resistance to the light is the goal of the ego. Accepting clarity (Light) in your life is surrendering to change. Change is the key word for transformation (from one state to another), and accepting this change is that which brings clarity. With clarity one finds gratitude and appreciation which invokes the feeling of love! As we have discussed in previous communications, the ego resists love. That is why it is so hard to stay within that state of being. When clarity is achieved, it doesn’t last as something always comes up to jeopardize or challenge love. Can clarity become a lasting state of being? Yes, and it is within your reach. The work that is required lies within your intention to allow transformation to occur and become your state of being. This takes questioning your thoughts and actions. This requires looking behind your reasons for thinking, saying, and the doing each thought and action. All action starts with thought. This may sound impossible but it is not, if that is your intention. You cannot believe it to be impossible or you will make it so, correct?

A first step is to question your need for approval from others. Everyone is taught (programmed) to need approval from others; especially those you love. This is a powerful part of the ego to overcome, and it will lead you to discover who you really are. Please understand that this journey will change your life! All healing, transformation, and finally clarity will change your life and that of everyone around you. Are you willing to take this step? For what lies beyond your current state of being is one of joy, love, peace, contentment, and clarity.

The purging thus far that has taken place within your being has created a sense of clarity and raised your vibration to an altered state of dimensional awareness. Within this altered state you are able to perceive things that you couldn’t before. This has awakened things within you that didn’t exist previously! New abilities and awareness of things that you didn’t ‘see’ before have become obvious. The good news is that there is more to come! You are continuing at your own pace to align with each frequency band within your realm. All light bands (dimensions) exist here and now and are within your reach. As you align with each band, you will evolve to the next band of frequencial awareness. This doesn’t happen in a day, and the awareness of this exists within your perceptions. As you evolve things come together, and the result is clarity. The key to your evolution is gratitude and appreciation, which is the foundation of love. When one achieves this state of being with clarity of purpose, they have become a Master. At this level one does not vibrate outside of gratitude and appreciation and fear, ego, etc. does not exist. This then, is your true state of being that dissolves the ego and dissipates all fear. It can be done and is the path to spiritual awareness and achievement. It is there for you should you desire it. Now is the time for your evolution! ♥

Connections

September 21, 2014

There is a new understanding that is resonating within your being. It is the newly formed connection that has been established within the last few months. You have created connections within yourself enabling contact with your higher self as well as other light beings (Angels, guardians)! This is the result of the work you are doing within yourself and your intention to establish this connection. This connection will bring you information and enhance your intuition, your higher sense of ‘knowing’ in readiness for the higher frequencial administration of light. With this dimensional attribute you will have connection with things seen and unseen. You will have access to higher states of awareness and life flows effortlessly. This is the physical state of 5th dimensional thinking and being. At this junction, your energy increases and transfiguration starts to take place. It feels as though a new sense of being is forming and answers come easily! Everything will feel differently and things that mattered no longer will. New and more important feelings arise as thoughts change to ‘acceptance’ rather than ‘resistance’. The new connections you make with all levels of your being will draw changes to your world. Struggle will decrease and some may wonder what is wrong with you! As your acknowledgement of this new state of being increases you will expand even more toward the 5th dimensional state of truth and acceptance. This will enlighten you even more to allow more change and light frequency to penetrate and elevate your being. This is the rise up the evolutionary spiral of expansion. It is time to make leaps and bounds in your expansion as the love within you increases. This opens you to work within the intelligence of the heart where the whole universe resides!
Within this new dimensional state of being lies the beginning of a new era of light frequency and vibration. More information and truth is being released that gives you a new sense of sovereignty and well-being. This is happening now, and the connection with this light will bring a new sense of inner peace that cannot be shaken. The energy that is created from your new dimensional state of being will assist the process and support others in making a difference that is felt by all. Awareness and intention is the inspiration in making this connection. Feel the truth of this within and allow it to unfold. Be well, be love ♥

Attachment

August 22, 2014

Attachments signal a need for balancing and grounding. We attach ourselves to different things and people to feel comfortable and safe in our lives. The greater the need for attachments, the more unchangeable and unsettled we are. In addition, the more insecure we are the more attachments we form. Life should be free flowing with different ‘curves and waterfalls’ that are intermittent for expansion, growth, and greater awareness! If we resist letting go (detaching) if and when it is time, there would be a pause in our evolution. This could cause a lot of pressure within until the change (detachment) is done or the situation is transformed. The fear of detachment keeps us in situations or creates events that bring a lot of stress and pressure to our lives overall. When we have the courage to detach, the pain of letting go creates a frequency of love. This is the love that can readily assist in healing our pain.

Emotions come from our heart (soul) being in physicality. The emotions that we generate as humans cannot be emanated in pure consciousness states. Being in physicality creates a much different and treasured emotional awareness. Emotions create our world!

What is it within us that needs the attachments we form? It is our ego. The ego is designed to keep you unbalanced and in fear. This results in insecurity and creates the need for attachments. Attachments then become another form of fear. The frequency of fear is what we are most comfortable with because it resonates with our ego. Then and only then can the ego be satisfied, for it takes a lot of work to manage our attachments. Being aware of the attachments that we have and what part they play in our lives, is the first step to detachment or transformation. Sometimes the ‘rough waters’ in our lives shows the obvious need for detachment. Each time you detach from something or someone, your life feels clearer and cleaner! Relationships will improve and flow returns. This instills in us the freedom to love without attachment to process or outcome. For in flowing we learn to trust that all will be well no matter what may come, without the need for attachments. If we are to evolve we must be free of attachment at all times. This allows for our expansion into higher frequencies of attainment and dimensional awareness!

Without the willingness to detach we hold ourselves back, if only for a while, because the need for detachment will become stronger until it is completed or transformed. Each detachment creates an opportunity for expansion as we learn to start trusting ourselves and our insights (intuition). Sometimes it is merely resolving to release the pain of the experience (detachment) that is necessary. Within the pain of letting go we rise within the essence of love for ourselves and others. If detachment is done with the understanding of why we are in such pain, we will not have to repeat the experience and the love flows forth for all!

Processing should be done through the heart, for the intelligence of the heart is the doorway to our evolution. This is where the mind/heart connection is most important and critical to expansion. When the pureness of mind/heart connection is made, the ego is released from its charge. This is not to say that the ego is gone; it is greatly diminished. Attachments are formed in the mind and detachments are done from the intelligence of heart. Detachment is merely allowing the freedom to change and evolve; yours and others without attachment to outcome. Living with the understanding of attachments will assist you with the conscious awareness of what will be flowing in and out of your life as you progress on your path and purpose. Attach without fear and detach with love. ♥

Trapped

5.16.12

Hello ~

I am going to do something a little different today with this post :-).

Often I have felt ‘caged in’ or ‘trapped’ by my life and have had this question posed to Sophia in different ways more than any concern or question I have had.  It is a recurring feeling in my life over the last year and comes in intervals.  I have noticed though, that the feeling used to create more agitation and resistance in my being, and this last ’bout’ had very little of that and more of a feeling of surrender and acceptance, although I felt what would normally be called sadness.  It wasn’t a true feeling of sadness as my thoughts were of freedom and love.  I was also able to be fully present within the experience when before I was caught in the mind and the myriad of questions and whys that the mind generates to keep me ‘looping’ in my trap.

I am going to include two sessions in this post; and I will date them both.  The first will be my experience of feeling trapped in August of  last year and the subsequent session will be that of today’s inquiry about the same feeling.

8/8/11

Sophia ~

Q.  I feel trapped today.  I used to feel trapped all the time and it has been a while since I have felt this way.  Is this what life is supposed to be?  Whose life am I living and why am I trying to be someone I’m not?

S.  You are out of gratitude and appreciation.  This is what lies on the other side of that.  You are having a hard time understanding your feelings.  There is a reason you are feeling this way.  You are feeling victimized and no one can make you feel that way but you.  Open to the feeling and let it flow through you.  Some things are not what they seem to be.  Life is a series of choices and we do the best we know how in the moment.  We make our lives up based on our fears and desires.  There are times when you feel stuck and you must move past it to a place of peace.  When you allow yourself to be in this place [trapped] you pinch yourself off from your center.  No matter what is going on in your life’s plan, you must strive for your center; your place of peace.  You are here to learn as you grow.  Be in the moment and generate love.  We are all love generators!  That is what you strive to become.  Life is only as complex as you make it.  There is no them and us……only we.  Don’t plan your life, flow with it!

Sophia ♥

I want to interject a comment about why Sophia said some of the things she* did.  I have really struggled with expectation.  I think some of it is because I have read by different sources to visualize what I want and I shall have it!  At one point in my life I accepted that hook, line, and sinker.  I have now found that although visualization is important and does work in certain situations and conditions,  I have a life path that must be followed and some of what I have visualized in the past is in direct conflict with that ideal at the moment.  So, not everything is meant for me to be, do, have, and if it is, the timing is different from my immediate wants and desires.

On now to today’s answer from Sophia on the same subject of feeling trapped!

5/16/12

Q.  Sophia ~ my feelings yesterday were heavy and agitating leading to the trapped feelings I have had in the past.  What’s happening?

S.  Dear One, there is nothing to fear.  You are finding your way through the disposition of your life and trying to find comfort in your circumstances.  The Shift of the Ages is occurring and everyone is experiencing it differently.  Things are not the same as even a month ago.  You have within you a strong field of love that is pouring from your which is directed by your higher self.  The planet is being permeated with love more than ever before.  This is the light you have been speaking of and others have been speaking of.  Your being has to adjust to this frequency of light and love and it feels overwhelming at times.  As much as you can you need to allow the feelings of this bountiful light/love to flow through you without interference.  There is major purging of any past ‘residue’ that is in your being and it is brought to the surface to be healed and released.  Anything that is not of love can reside in your being.  That is why you have done so much work on yourself.  So that you can hold more light/love!

Thank you, Sophia ♥

What I understand from this last communication is that whatever issues and programming I have left to purge is coming to the surface in intervals as I heal and release anything that doesn’t resonate with who I am becoming which is more authentic and genuine.  This happens in intervals of time as I heal/release those things in layers.  It feels like I’m trapped because that is what my beliefs and prior programming have done to me………trapped me in responses and reactions to events in my life leading to a feeling of being trapped.

With all my love,

Michell ♥

* she ~ Sophia feels like feminine energy so I use ‘she’ when I refer to ‘her’.

Change

7/18/11

Sophia ~

Q.  Can you speak to me about the changes we are all experiencing?  Is is great healing, or are we to expect more noticeable changes?  If so, what are they?

S.  Change is a multifaceted concept.  All change is related to something in motion.  We are recognizing your need to know what to expect.  There is nothing to fear, nothing to know, and we do want you to be aware of the shifts you experience.   Shifts are the noticeable projection of change.  Nowhere is it written that change always has to be  profound when it happens.  Be that as it may, each person that experiences change will know that it is a direct result of asking.  There need not be some crisis for change to happen, although with some it is what they need for themselves to make the change.

Q.  Sophia, what is this change you are referring to?

S.  The process of personal enfoldment.  The opening of ones self to change of spirit.  The metamorphosis of growth.  So much is happening and it is all subtle and personal.  None of you is going through this the same way.  Things come up from the inside for healing.  Healing must take place first then the consciousness can expand.  Right action must then be in place for healing to occur.  Otherwise there is no genuine healing taking place.  We cannot explain it more than that.

Q.  Sophia ~ I question my process.  I had a thought this morning that maybe I am fooling myself by thinking or feeling like I am becoming a different person; i.e. more loving, nice, etc.  I am afraid of that [I’m not changing].  Why am I having these thoughts?

S.  Sweet one, you are making these changes you are so afraid are not genuine or authentic.  Do not be afraid of being different and of change.  You are one of the few that needs to change now to assist others.  We see in your heart how much you desire these changes and have for a very long time.  We will help if you just ask.

Q.  Sophia ~ What is my path?

S.  Clearing, cleansing, healing, and growing.  When you have completed the healing part of your process you will be initiated into a new level of awareness.  You will teach this to people.

Thank you Sophia ♥