Forgiveness & Patience ~ part 2


October 20, 2014

Sophia, I have been working very hard on forgiveness, for without it I feel I cannot evolve. Whenever I think that I have managed true forgiveness, something comes up to show me that I may have not completely forgiven. What is the work that needs to be done once the intention to forgive is in place?

Dearest One, forgiveness is a process and as such cannot be done in one ‘sitting’. Knowing that there are several layers on the path to forgiveness and patience with your process, is key.

Forgiveness is intertwined with time, others, and yourself. When one feels a need to forgive a deep injury, the past must be brought up which is the timeline associated with the situation. This incites the chain reaction of being pulled out of the now (where you have done some work on this issue), and into the hurtful situation as it happened. If you have done any work around forgiveness of the situation, recreating it should feel different, and another facet of the situation should be apparent. This would be the next layer to work with in your process.

It is easy to get ‘stuck’ in forgiving someone for a violation you feel is unforgivable to you. This then requires that you go deeper into where the belief of the violation comes from. Is there a programming issue at work? Another words, were you programmed to believe something that felt violated? If so, is this your belief or someone else’s that you acquired and were taught to make your own? If this feels right, it would be wise to consider the belief system you have around the issue. Sometimes it is easy to tell when the belief may come from another source by looking at how resistant you are to the defense of your beliefs. When one does not want to consider change, growth and evolution is stopped.

Sophia, I can see how forgiveness can involve more effort than just ‘talking’ yourself into it. I know personally that in the past I have made the decision to forgive through analyzing, which did not work.

You are correct! Forgiveness is not of the mind (ego). It is of the heart. This is why most cannot complete the process. Deep forgiveness delves underneath the ‘chain of pain’ within the heart. Each event, person, or situation is interlinked with one variable; and that is you. In some situations forgiveness of yourself for not being ‘loveable’ or ‘good enough’ is enough to heal. This could very well be the only act of forgiveness that may truly matter!

I understand that forgiving ourselves is very important, for without that we have not stopped the chain reaction of creating situations that require forgiveness. What about a true violation such as rape or murder?

Yes, this is the highest form of forgiveness and the most difficult. This requires you to ‘see’ with a higher mind/heart connection. This is a deep injury that has many facets to it, and in some cases cannot be undone due to the level of guilt intertwined within the injury. Guilt is the highest form of punishment that the ego generates to keep you ‘in line’. Guilt is the ‘hold card’ for the ego that can undermine anything in your life. In the case of an ‘unforgiveable’ situation, the first step must be the willingness to let go, forgive, and heal the pain that is caused by the situation. Pain is addicting, for it gives some ones a reason to be weak and feel victimized. Healing and forgiving lifts you out of the process of victimization, and allows you to see the bigger picture that involves all that we have discussed. Remembering that you are responsible only for yourself and your actions can help you see the event from a ‘third party’ viewpoint. You must be willing to step outside of the pain of the situation to see the larger picture and the part each one had within it. Only then can you find a speck of understanding within the event. Knowing that you cannot change anything that has happened helps to pull you out of the fog of the pain. Loss is a part of your evolution. Being able to understand this clarifies and refines your being. It lifts you to a higher place of understanding and love, for this is what your higher instinct knows you are working towards. You cannot have higher evolution of your being with lower level unresolved pain and guilt. This is your path to peace, joy, bliss and love for yourself and others.

Thank you, Sophia!



Hello ~

I am going to do something a little different today with this post :-).

Often I have felt ‘caged in’ or ‘trapped’ by my life and have had this question posed to Sophia in different ways more than any concern or question I have had.  It is a recurring feeling in my life over the last year and comes in intervals.  I have noticed though, that the feeling used to create more agitation and resistance in my being, and this last ’bout’ had very little of that and more of a feeling of surrender and acceptance, although I felt what would normally be called sadness.  It wasn’t a true feeling of sadness as my thoughts were of freedom and love.  I was also able to be fully present within the experience when before I was caught in the mind and the myriad of questions and whys that the mind generates to keep me ‘looping’ in my trap.

I am going to include two sessions in this post; and I will date them both.  The first will be my experience of feeling trapped in August of  last year and the subsequent session will be that of today’s inquiry about the same feeling.


Sophia ~

Q.  I feel trapped today.  I used to feel trapped all the time and it has been a while since I have felt this way.  Is this what life is supposed to be?  Whose life am I living and why am I trying to be someone I’m not?

S.  You are out of gratitude and appreciation.  This is what lies on the other side of that.  You are having a hard time understanding your feelings.  There is a reason you are feeling this way.  You are feeling victimized and no one can make you feel that way but you.  Open to the feeling and let it flow through you.  Some things are not what they seem to be.  Life is a series of choices and we do the best we know how in the moment.  We make our lives up based on our fears and desires.  There are times when you feel stuck and you must move past it to a place of peace.  When you allow yourself to be in this place [trapped] you pinch yourself off from your center.  No matter what is going on in your life’s plan, you must strive for your center; your place of peace.  You are here to learn as you grow.  Be in the moment and generate love.  We are all love generators!  That is what you strive to become.  Life is only as complex as you make it.  There is no them and us……only we.  Don’t plan your life, flow with it!

Sophia ♥

I want to interject a comment about why Sophia said some of the things she* did.  I have really struggled with expectation.  I think some of it is because I have read by different sources to visualize what I want and I shall have it!  At one point in my life I accepted that hook, line, and sinker.  I have now found that although visualization is important and does work in certain situations and conditions,  I have a life path that must be followed and some of what I have visualized in the past is in direct conflict with that ideal at the moment.  So, not everything is meant for me to be, do, have, and if it is, the timing is different from my immediate wants and desires.

On now to today’s answer from Sophia on the same subject of feeling trapped!


Q.  Sophia ~ my feelings yesterday were heavy and agitating leading to the trapped feelings I have had in the past.  What’s happening?

S.  Dear One, there is nothing to fear.  You are finding your way through the disposition of your life and trying to find comfort in your circumstances.  The Shift of the Ages is occurring and everyone is experiencing it differently.  Things are not the same as even a month ago.  You have within you a strong field of love that is pouring from your which is directed by your higher self.  The planet is being permeated with love more than ever before.  This is the light you have been speaking of and others have been speaking of.  Your being has to adjust to this frequency of light and love and it feels overwhelming at times.  As much as you can you need to allow the feelings of this bountiful light/love to flow through you without interference.  There is major purging of any past ‘residue’ that is in your being and it is brought to the surface to be healed and released.  Anything that is not of love can reside in your being.  That is why you have done so much work on yourself.  So that you can hold more light/love!

Thank you, Sophia ♥

What I understand from this last communication is that whatever issues and programming I have left to purge is coming to the surface in intervals as I heal and release anything that doesn’t resonate with who I am becoming which is more authentic and genuine.  This happens in intervals of time as I heal/release those things in layers.  It feels like I’m trapped because that is what my beliefs and prior programming have done to me………trapped me in responses and reactions to events in my life leading to a feeling of being trapped.

With all my love,

Michell ♥

* she ~ Sophia feels like feminine energy so I use ‘she’ when I refer to ‘her’.