Forgiveness is the most challenging of the six virtues. Yet, forgiveness is the key to evolution! The other six virtues cannot carry the evolution of your being without forgiveness.
Forgiveness starts with awareness. Being aware of something or someone that warrants your forgiveness is paramount to beginning the process. There are two parts to forgiveness. Forgiving the situation or person, and forgiving yourself. One cannot be forgiven without the other, for if you don’t forgive yourself, the act of forgiving is nullified as the pain is still there and nothing has truly been healed.
Forgiveness is a process of removing the need to blame someone or something for the pain you are feeling inside due to something happening that you have judged as an assault upon your being. This can be something you consciously experienced or something you have been programmed to believe. Either way, you believe you have been robbed of an opportunity to be happy. We are all responsible for our own happiness; either in understanding that we were temporarily under someone else’s jurisdiction, or the judgements we make because of feeling powerless. This belief or judgment creates resentment and becomes the pain that we feel in relation to the person or situation at the center of our being. The belief that the other person knew that they were causing you pain further exacerbates the experience causing you to feed the pain with more grief, and allowing further injury to occur. This is a never ending cycle of blame and self torture that grows making you a victim of your own misconceptions.
Forgiving is not an easy thing to do as it requires you to be responsible for the pain that you are feeling. The only way to forgive is to feel responsible for the pain and resentment you are feeling. No one can hurt you unless you allow them to do so. You were willing to allow someone to hurt you that was injured themselves. No one causes anyone pain unless they are in pain themselves. The question to ask yourself when potential injury arises is; what part inside of you is weak and subjective to injury by the other? Once this is identified, how can you strengthen that part of you to avoid further distortion or injury? Finding a way to avoid the situation from happening at all is the mark of an expanded consciousness and willingness to take responsibility for your being. This is the mark of a spiritually mature being, and requires courage to move past the need for acceptance and approval. Once you have discovered the power within yourself to provide all that you need, forgiveness can begin. You will actually want to forgive those you feel have wronged you as the imprint of their pain upon you is gone.
Forgiveness is for you. Although you feel it may be letting someone off the hook, you do not have that power. The person was ‘on the hook’ already and that is why they injured you, otherwise the situation would have never happened. Bring yourself to the point of being willing to forgive and you have come more than half way! The joy and happiness that lies on the other side of forgiveness will take you to newer heights of love and peace within. No one can do this for you, this is your expansion and personal Spiritual Awareness that only you can heal and empower. There is much grace here for you. Feel it and it will give you strength and will. Be Well Be Love ♥